Yesterday didn’t go according to plan for me. Nothing terrible happened but the day was full of little incidences of things not happening the way I’d imagined (how very dare they). A day full of minor irritations and disappointments. The kind of day that is just irritating or a disappointment. For me, it was the kind of day that, in the past, would have left me in a foul mood, generally feeling down and, possibly have set me up for an even poorer day today. It could have been evidence that I wasn’t having much luck and that things never go my way. But it didn’t and I’ve woken up positive for the day ahead. So, what is different now? My mindset has changed.
During my journey over the past six months or so, I’ve discovered the importance of mindset and making sure that your head is in the right place to see, bring in and accept all the things that are out there. I know that to some this will sound like mystical nonsense but, I can see how, having the right mindset has changed the way I see and feel about the world around me; about the opportunities that are coming my way and the life that I lead today. Maybe, having the right mindset is bringing them in; maybe it’s just helping me to see what has always been there. I’m not really bothered which it is. What I care about is the impact it has on me and my physical and mental wellbeing.
Why didn’t yesterday’s minor setbacks and things going off plan affect me in the same way that they would normally. Firstly, I recognised when things were getting to me and tried to change my energy. The first time this happened was when I was driving home after our Health Matters radio show. I recognised that I was feeling a bit frustrated and concerned because a few things during the day hadn’t gone quite how I’d anticipated and hadn’t turned out as well as I’d wished. So, I repeated my morning ritual of breathing, feeling gratitude, feeling love and then manifesting the life that I want as I drove home (don’t worry, completely safe to do as I drive).
On the way to dancing, my mood was still a little off so I opted to listen to music to change my energy rather than podcasts as I couldn’t focus on them. I popped on a comedy podcast on the way home; again, trying to change my mood and energy.
Finally, at my Slimming World group, normally one of the high spots of my week, I felt out of sorts and just not the way I usually feel. After this I recognised that if I didn’t get control, all this little, first world stuff, could really start impacting on me. I’ve been so happy over the last week that there was no way that I was going to let this happen. So, on the way home (for the last time that day), I started to count my blessings. I went back over the day and thought of all the things that I was grateful for. It was important that I recognised that so many good things had happened and that a few minor setbacks weren’t really that important. In the end, I listed them in a Facebook group I’m part of called Simply Sisterhood (formerly Damsels in Success). The list was actually quite long and I’ve realised that I missed things off, like winning the raffle at Slimming World – ingredients for a lovely asparagus and mushroom pasta dish (get me!).
We can spend so much time focussing on where we’re going, what the next achievement or goal is and what we have to do to become the person we want to be, that we forget to celebrate where we are, how far we’ve come and what we have now. I believe that it’s that gratitude for what we have now, be that material possessions, our health, our relationships or just the fact that we are warm, safe, fed and loved, that really makes us happy, and we lose sight of that at our peril.
“We are all blessed, but the problem is that some of us count their blessings while others count their struggles, challenges and obstacles.”
― Edmond Mbiaka